The COVID-19 situation has brought in a new set of experiences. One major life change for most of us is staying home. Some still managed initially, but then further extensions of the lockdown, have played havoc in some families.
Each home and family is different and there is no single formula that will work to keep us happy. But ONE thing that is commonly usable is the power to think positively.
All of us have this power to think positively.
But you’ll say, “Why are SOME people still so negative then, if ALL have the power?”
The difference is that some CHOOSE to exercise this power and some don’t. It’s as simple as that!!!
In everything in life we have a choice, irrespective of the position we are in. We have a choice to listen to someone or not; we have a choice to read this article or not; we have a choice to search for some benefit even from a hard-earned life’s lesson, however bad it may seem currently.
And mind you, this is NOT as difficult as some may feel. It is a pretty simple rule:
Whatever happens, ask yourself a simple question “What’s something that I can learn through this?” or “How can this be good for me / my family?” or any such similar question… and most importantly, after asking, SEARCH for the ANSWER.
You see, no one can GIVE you this answer… it has to be found by YOU, only then will you believe it, and only then, will it make you feel good.
Similarly, you can’t find the positives for your family members too, you can only guide them toward thinking positively, as I’m guiding you now.
You may have experienced someone telling you that something is good for you, and if you didn’t feel it for yourself, your response to them would be just “Yeah, right” with a smirk… that was because it was their perception, not yours.
What I’m trying to say here is, for positive thinking to have a good effect on you, you have to OWN IT. It HAS to be YOUR own thoughts or it won’t make you feel good.
There was a time several years ago, that my purse got stolen while I was shopping, it hassled me a lot until I managed to get home. Then when I realized there was nothing that I could do about it, and it wasn’t coming back to me, I just chose to change my thoughts… I started saying “Maybe the thief needed the money more than I did”… and gradually I began to feel it was alright.
You see, we may have NO CONTROL over some things that happen to us… but we HAVE CONTROL of our thoughts.
We can choose to put a little effort and turn bad thoughts into good thoughts.
Let me explain it in another simple way:
Even if you don’t wear specs, you can still imagine this…. a small exercise…
Imagine you’re looking through dark glasses… what’s the result? Everything looks dark.
Now imagine you’re looking thru blue glasses… what’s the result? Everything looks bluish. You’ll probably feel you’re surrounded by Smurfs and if you look in the mirror, you’re one too. 😊
Now imagine you’re looking thru pink glasses… what’s the result? Everything looks pinkish.
THIS is where you get the proverb “Looking through Rose – Coloured glasses”, as everything seems nice and rosy.
You’ve surely got the drift by now…
Look through “Positive Lenses”.
We can choose to wear the bright positive lenses rather than the dark negative lenses when looking at things that we go through, thereby actually SEEING the good.
We can use some examples from our everyday lives…
Instead of saying “I’m stuck at home” try saying “I’m safe as I have a home”.
Instead of saying “I’m so bored at home, got nothing to do” try saying “I’ve got this time to do things I’ve never had the time to do before”.
Instead of saying “Working from home is so time consuming, I’m working the whole day now” try saying “I’m safe indoors as I don’t have to commute to work daily” and also “I’m grateful that I’m employed”.
Try a few more right now as a small exercise… things you’ve been saying lately that brought you down… and try modifying them positively.
The main effect of this whole new way of thinking is that you’ll be a happier person… and this tends to have a domino effect on people around you. Even after this Lockdown, when you go back to your regular schedules, this habit of thinking positively will bring in joys a hundredfold.
Finally, if you’re a beginner at this and if you’re just beginning to actually focus on the positive, initially this may seem artificial or kind of fake, but believe me, if you start doing it regularly (it will initially need a bit of effort), it will gradually become a HABIT.
IGNORE those who make fun of you initially… gradually they’ll see the happy person you’ve become and will follow in your footsteps (even though they may not admit it)😊
Reading more on this topic may help you. The internet has loads of ideas to boost positive thinking.
(See another of my posts that may help you pass your time effectively during this time: “DO WHAT YOU LOVE and YOU’LL LOVE WHAT YOU DO“ at https://rhondachologist.wordpress.com/2017/10/29/do-what-you-love-and-youll-love-what-you-do/ ).
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